In chapter 2 we discussed the decision each of us makes between remaining single or seeking marriage. Eventually, most of us will choose the latter—or at least we’ll appear to do so on the surface. But deeper inside, is it really so?      In this chapter we’ll discuss a more subtle influence that can grow alongside your decision, if your season of singleness has been too prolonged. Subtle though it may be, it is so powerful that it can actually reverse your desire in practical terms and keep you single for good – even if you thought you'd prefer marriage all along.      We begin with the story of a light: the glory of God as He appeared to Moses in the burning bush. He spoke of the affliction of His people which He had seen, and of their groans which He had heard:      “I have surely seen the oppression of My people who are in Egypt, and have heard their cry because of their taskmasters, f...

       Upon the advice of my wife, another subject should be addressed at this point. This is something that naturally appeals to many sincere Christians, but is easily mis­under­stood and may even cost them their chance for a happy marriage. Paradoxically, it’s the question of God’s will for you in choosing a mate.      Has God already chosen a specific person whom you are to marry? If so, then you could not be married to anyone else in good conscience. But on the other hand, if you think you know who that person is, your love-life could be stuck in a holding pattern until they realize it, too. All other options would be suspended for you – but not for them – and you’d find yourself at a serious disadvantage. You’d descend into the miserable existence known as ‘carrying a torch’ for them.      If this describes you, then you must come to terms with your situation before proceeding. Either you have missed the Lord or misu...